Wednesday, February 2, 2011

Afternoon with a Narcissist

Oh no you did not just say that!

Mom called up job agencies, speaking for me, saying that I haven't had work since 2009.  I gave her no such permission.  Besides, I've had a job since early November.

My mother is pushing for me to get a full time job at another location.  Perhaps you would like to know that the requirements she is demanding of these locations are:
  • high status
  • high pay
  • paid vacations
  • health benefits
  • 401K
In what bad economy is a fresh graduate going to be able to land a high pay ($40,000+), high status (i.e., Cedars Sinai, St Johns, etc), paid vacation (so she can continue to drag me around the world like a rag doll), health benefits (so she can quit paying for COBRA), and a retirement plan?

Not this one!

And since when do employers want to hire someone who "needs" her mommy to call and speak for them?

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Additionally, she assumes that I am in a bad mood because I head directly to my room after getting out of work in the afternoon.  No, first I head to the bookstore to buy some non-Starbucks coffee and write for about 90 minutes; then I get home.  I go to my room because she is
  • (a) incapable of being fully present to me 
  • (b) incapable of just listening to how my day went honestly and without offering a solution
  • (c) incapable of not making it sound like my job is difficult due to my fault [its the fault of my Program Director who's on probation]
  • (d) incapable of not over-glorifying herself
When she can be real and not pushy of her "grandeur", perhaps then I will have emotional and psychological energy and need to seek her out.  Until then she'll continue to leech and make me play for 2nd place when 1st place is assumed by her delusions.

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This evening I'll be drafting the inquiries for my internship, and writing an email to my hopefully-soon-to-be therapist.

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